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Noah’s Story: Finding that missing jigsaw piece

Noah’s epilepsy got so bad during the Coronavirus lockdown that he nearly died. His mum Emma was thankful to have the support of Julia’s House nurses during some traumatic and distressing days. For Noah’s family, the care and support provided by their local children’s hospice makes a world of difference. Here is their story, told by mum Emma.

The missing piece to our puzzle

“Julia’s House is a massive piece of a jigsaw that was missing from our lives for years. I cannot put into words what it means to us to have that support now.

“Noah has been socially disconnected being away from the Julia’s House hospice and school because that is where his friendships are. Those two elements are his life and mean everything to him.

“Having care at home every week during lockdown has helped him through that – and been amazing for us. The Julia’s House nurses are so respectful of our home and express their gratitude for being able to spend some time with our son. There is such warmth in everything they do.”

The toughest of times

“It has been tough for us over the past few months.  Since lockdown Noah has been rushed to hospital several times – once with an air ambulance doctor who travelled with him to keep him safe. We had to prepare for the real possibility he might die. At one point he suffered 18 hours of seizures and doctors were talking about putting him into an induced coma.

“We had a tough meeting with all the medical professionals involved in Noah’s care. We talked about an end of life care plan, which was very distressing for us. Having Nail and Harriet, Noah’s Julia’s House nurses there to support us helped make all those difficult discussions that tiny bit easier.

“There is a bumpy ride ahead but just knowing they are around and that they understand what we are facing is such a comfort.

“When Noah’s seizures were bad he just wasn’t eating, getting weaker and weaker. We were told he needed an operation to fit a peg, a button into his stomach so that he could be tube fed. It was the only way we would be able to get enough nutrition and fluids into him to help him stay strong.

“I felt very emotional about the thought of another operation. Every time he goes through those doors into theatre we have to say our goodbyes, give him one last kiss.

Getting us through

“We were so upset and anxious about it, but Noah’s nurses talked us through the whole procedure really calmly, explaining how it would work and the benefits for Noah and were just so kind.

“They took all the fear and stress away.  It is this side of the service that people do not see. It is so much more than just caring for sick children. The Julia’s House team are a joy to have around and a total Godsend.

“The nurses and carers totally ‘get’ us as a whole family, know what is right for us and can read our mood. They work within our normal and our normal can be a horrible place and worrying at times but they listen, they understand and they pre-empt our needs.

“They have a sense of humour too which is important when you are facing such a grim reality. We don’t want people around us who will bring the mood down. Julia’s house nurses can turn the day around and leave us all feeling so much better able to cope.

Boy and mum

Noah’s story has been shared to mark the launch of Give Me a Break, a new report from Together for Short Lives and Julia’s House Children’s Hospice detailing the positive impact of short breaks on parents’ physical and mental health, their demand for NHS care and family relationships. 

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